'What other people think of you is none of your business.’ Some may misunderstand this as an arrogant statement, but if you look at it with a perspective that there are three kinds of ‘business’ to be involved in – mine, yours and a higher power’s business (whatever that means to you - or not) - it takes on different meaning.
A lot of our stress comes from living outside of our own business: telling others how they should be, have others tell us how we should be, worrying about death, earthquakes, fires, etc. We really should only be in ‘our own’ business and once we are, we also come to realize that we don’t have much business here either and that our life runs pretty well on its own, if we would just let it!
To manage change, you need to follow a process.
For a transformation, you need the right attitude. Change doesn't require a new attitude, transformation does. Change is about information, skills, knowledge. Transformation is about attitude. People can change all the time. Transformation is more rare. But when it happens, it moves. Change fixes the past. Transformation creates the future. I've decided to stop trying to find balance. I don't think it's possible nor realistic. As soon as you find 'it' and are momentarily balanced, something happens and you feel out of balance. Instead, I've decided to simply practice balancing. Sometimes, I need training wheels to keep my balance. Other times, I feel balanced riding without. Being balanced is not a one-time event. Balancing is an everyday practice. And sometimes you still need your training wheels. |
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