Expatriation brings with it a unique set of challenges. We've included some of these challenges below as well as challenging questions to get you to think about how you can change and improve your perspective.

Challenges

1. Unclear objectives of the assignment

• Why am/are I/we doing this?

2. Unclear and/or unrealistic expectations

• What do I expect of myself?
• Is this realistic? If not, what is?

3. Small world mentality

• Am I frustrated due to a minimization of the differences?

4. Boredom

• How can I create a routine for myself?

5. Reduced productivity

• First, see #1. Second, ask yourself, how can I better manage my personal and professional goals during this transition? Hint: It typically takes the normal expat at least 6 months to reach productivity levels of their home country, so don't be so hard on yourself!

6. Mental and/or physical problems

• How can I take better care of myself?

7. Overwhelmed and pulled priorities

• How can I place boundaries on my time?

8. A loss of support network

• What resources exist? Remember to include virtual resources!

9. Not learning the language fast enough

• What will I do so I speak/hear/read the host language everyday? Also, see #2.

10. Negative attitude toward host nationals

• How can I increase my empathy? What else is going on that I am unaware of?

Completely removing all frustrations from our lives and from all relationships is an unrealistic goal.

However, reducing our stress cycle to a particular situation can truly change in how we approach life. If a current stress cycle to a challenging situation is 1 week, setting a goal to reduce it to 3 days is realistic and gives back the control one may need in managing the frustration and knowing it can be managed in a different manner.

Yes, it is going to be frustrating but perhaps not for 1 week.

It may not be easy, but it certainly can be easier.

Reminding yourself of these helpful questions in the middle of stress cycle, however long, can help:

• How much time, energy and frustration do I want to choose to give to this particular issue?
  
• In doing so, am I aware that putting my energy in this place will take it away from another place?
  
• Is this what I want? Is this what am I committed to?